“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” ― Diane Von Furstenberg
Growing up, a lot of us can relate to the urge of trying to fit in. Whether it’s at school or at the office, no one wants to be the oddball; the one no one relates to. Everyone wants to find a community of people they feel like they belong to. And while trying to fit in to find the right community isn’t overtly a bad thing; if you’re changing yourself to the point of compromising your values and goals in life, you may have to take a step back and reflect: is this really what you want?
We spend all our lives chasing after that sense of belonging. In the process, we sometimes end up becoming someone who excessively seeks to please other people and hunt for their validation and approval. But in constantly trying to prove yourself to others, we may end up becoming someone we’re not completely happy with.
Don’t Chase after Everyone’s Approval
The more you try to ‘fix’ yourself according to what you think you should be like, the more you’re sacrificing your real self.
Don’t put your dreams on hold because you think you need to be fitter, slimmer, more extroverted, less talkative, or different from who you already are.
And as cliché as it may sound, it still holds true; we’re all unique in our own way and so we need to take a moment think. True happiness lies in celebrating our uniqueness when we stop sacrificing ourselves and our dreams at the expense of our well-being, just to meet others’ approval.
Don’t Follow the Crowd, Stand Out
This can be easier said than done. But in order to find true happiness, you need to truly accept who you are. Be proud of your individuality and be the person you want to be. Take out a moment to evaluate your core values, your principles in life, and your strengths.
Not everyone is the same; each person has their own definition of what ‘normal’ is for them.
Be Compassionate With Yourself
We all have a bad habit of comparing ourselves to others. Whether it’s with a celebrity or with someone in your social circle, we all do it. We tend to develop our self-image in light of other people’s accomplishments.
Instead of comparing yourself to other people and feeling bad about how you don’t have so-and-so in life already, use this human nature to compare to your advantage. Use their accomplishments as inspiration and set out your own goals in life; evaluate if you’re fulfilling your own potential.
Be compassionate to yourself and try to grow as a person of your own, instead of manufacturing yourself into someone you’re not and living under someone else’s shadow.
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